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The Struggling Emergence of a New Civility

By Rich Harwood

Our politics are incredibly toxic, and at times, conditions only seem to be worsening. But look around and it’s possible to see the emergence of a competing set of conditions–what I’ll call the New Civility. I say it’s “new” because the old civility is about people holding hands and singing “Kumbayah.” We’re in need of something more potent and realistic.

One signal of this “New Civility” is Republican Jon Huntsman’s recent announcement that he was running for president. Huntsman has gone to great lengths in setting a decidedly productive tone for his candidacy. He is upfront and clear about his differences with President Obama, while pointing out that he doesn’t question the president’s love of country or commitment. They simply disagree on a host of issues and governing philosophy.

Of course, many Washington pundits and news media outlets have questioned the seriousness of Huntsman’s approach, saying he is running only on style and not substance, and that he will be eaten alive by his tougher, and nastier Republican opponents. Or put another way, those who were better equipped to play by the rules of toxic politics.

But Huntsman is not alone in his approach. One can feel any number of political leaders seeking to move toward a New Civility, including at times House Speaker John Boehner and Secretary of Defense Robert Gates. Just yesterday Republican presidential candidate Mitt Romney joined in, calling for political leaders to “work across the aisle.” For me, the latter example is a sign of Romney reacting to the pull of the new civility and hedging his bets. But it is telling that he feels pressure to do so, and suggests there is a growing power around the idea that we need a different way of working together.


But, change comes about when there is an emergence of a competing narrative, which grows out of nascent pockets of change that point to the possibility of a different path.


Now, I can hear many of my friends getting antsy, even downright uncomfortable with me saying these things. But, wait a moment, please! It’s clear to me that our dominant political narrative right now is one of division and acrimony, self-dealing, and self-promotion. I get that. Yesterday’s conviction of former Illinois governor Rod Blagojevich is Exhibit A in politics run amuck. But, change comes about when there is an emergence of a competing narrative, which grows out of nascent pockets of change that point to the possibility of a different path. We are seeing the early signs of such pockets, and the early emergence of the new, competing narrative that reflects them. I’m not naïve, I know these signs aren’t the dominant story, but to deny their existence is to enable the growth of further cynicism and to forfeit the opportunity to change course.

The substance of the New Civility is not reflective of the civility movement of the past ten or fifteen years, in which proponents adopted the oft-repeated Rodney King refrain: “Why can’t we all just get along!” The new civility is not about being friends, or “liking” each other.

Rather, it is about building respectful relationships so things can get done. It is where tough issues are put on the table, and where philosophical differences are not washed away or diminished, but understood and worked with. The New Civility is one where our opponents are not evil, but where there is a real battle to win the debate. It is where tough choices must be made, and where real trade-offs exist. It is where “progress” and “hope” are earned only over time, based on the hard-won renewal of belief that we as individuals and collectively have the ability to get things done.

Seizing on this new civility will require us never to lose sight that we are engaged in a competition between the old and new – and that we must strategically target opportunities where existing, nascent pockets can be strengthened, and new ones created. We must place a spotlight on emerging victories, and not lose spirit when current conditions prevail. And we must remind ourselves that amid toxicity and destruction there is the opportunity to grab hold of real hope.

*Image from Etsy by Orange Moon Toys


A dynamic public speaker, Rich Harwood is a frequent keynote for foundations and national organizations. He is an expert contributor on national and syndicated media outlets including MSNBC, NPR, The Christian Science Monitor, CNN’s Inside Politics, The NewsHour with Jim Lehrer, Special Report with Brit Hume, C-SPAN, and many others. He is also the author of Hope Unraveled: The people’s retreat and our way back (2005), Make Hope Real: How we can accelerate change for the public good (2008) and numerous studies, articles and essays chronicling vital issues of our time. His most recent written work, Why We’re Here: The Powerful Impact of Public Broadcasters When They Turn Outward, is being published and distributed in Spring 2011. You can follow him on twitter @RichHarwood and facebook.com/richharwood.

You can read Rich’s posts every Tuesday on State of the Re:Union’s website.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/greg.kirsch Greg Kirsch

     ”The New Civility is one where our opponents are not evil, but where there is a real battle to win the debate.”….Amen

  • http://www.facebook.com/greg.kirsch Greg Kirsch

     ”The New Civility is one where our opponents are not evil, but where there is a real battle to win the debate.”….Amen

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002178077597 Joseph Clark

    I would give anything to see rivals use civility to debate issues instead of screaming useless exaggerated accusations.

  • http://www.lindagalindo.com Linda

    Please, oh please can there be an Accountability party? I’d stop lot’s of these dumb, useless, uncivil discourses by asking “what are you saying you are accountable for?” Keep bringing things back to the issue and only that. For or against a woman’s right to choose? For or against gay marriage? For or against taxation without representation? We’ve lost the ability to ask straightforward questions or to identify a problem before rushing in to solve it. I don’t know what politicians are going to do, I want to know what they will be accountable for. Each of us has to be accountable for our results. If I mismanage my budget I pay for it. If they mismanage their budget they get bailed out so “the system,” their system, does not fail. Time to change the question from “what are you going to do?” to “what will you be accountable for?” Accountability, transparency and civility are the words I can put some hope behind.

  • 4 whirledpeas

    I’d like to think of it all as the old timey bar fights seen in John Wayne movies. Rivals slug it out until they wear each other down, and when they just can’t do it anymore (and they realize its accomplishing nothing) they buy each other a drink… and go save the day.

  • Anonymous

    I can see you haven’t tried to reason with these dyed-in-the-wool Republicans.  Their minds are slam-shut closed.  Their brainwashing is so complete that they are totally inocculated against any views other than their own.  When questioned, they get vicious and adopt a “How Dare You Question Me” attitude.  The only thing now is for ALL true believers in Democracy to get out and vote against the Fascist (Corporatist) Dupes.  No time for sitting at home sputtering.  The Democratic base needs to get out and fight against the forces of Evil.  Yes, I said Evil without hesitation or second thought, unless, of course, you see no threat to Democracy.  That choosing your party affiliation is like choosing your favorite sports team–without any real consequences.  That it doesn’t matter who wins this “debate.”  That selling out cheap to Fascism makes no difference.